Are you ready to be a mother?

Am I ready to be a mother?

You must have been asking yourself this question ever since you got married.

We make choices everyday. Some choices are easy but some can affect the rest of our lives. You have to know what is important to you and what do you want!

Something for you to consider:
 

• What would you feel if you found out you are pregnant today? Happy? Excited? Loved? Depressed? Angry? Scared? Stressed?

• Do you have a supportive husband who is ready to be a father?

• Are you willing to give up on your hobby/interest/job after being a mother?
  

• Are you financially ready? 

• Will you regret?

Babies are cute but a mother's job can never end. Babies need to be fed, diapered, cared, loved, dressed, comforted, played with and nurtured. Taking care of a baby can be 24/7, which means you have to get up in the middle of the night to feed, change diaper and meet the baby's needs. 

Before being a mother, you have to be financially ready, physically (make sure you have a healthy body to get pregnant) and mentally prepared. Please don't get pregnant because your parents/in-laws want you to do so. It is a choice of your life. Once you are a parent, you will forever be a parent. It is a choice where you have no turning back so please be absolutely ready/prepared before proceeding.

Many mothers can tell you how fun their lives became ever since they have a new family member. Before you get too tempted, you should find out more.

Such as, do you mind:- 

1) your body to get bloated/ballooned up during pregnancy 

which may takes more than half a year to slim down? 

(Some of them failed to get back to their slim/fit body after birth.)

2) to take supplement such as,  folic acid, vitamin-c, iron pill 

and calcium pills throughout the pregnancy?

3) to STOP smoking, drinking alcoholic/caffeine beverages and taking your favorite raw food, etc which are bad for your baby?

4) to have stretch marks?

5) to have hormone changes which may give you 

more freckles(pregnancy mask)/pimples on your face and body or even change your voice?

6) to suffer from nausea (morning sickness), insomnia and cramps for months?

7) to have saggy breasts?

8) to go through the labour pain/postnatal c-sec pain + scar?

9) to look after the baby 24/7 no matter how tired/sleepy/sick you are?

10) to stop going out or cut down the frequency of 

shopping/clubbing/gathering with your friends weekly?

11) to change diaper for the baby?

12) to take care of your sick baby rather than watching movie with your friend?

13) to have a baby/kid follows wherever you go?

 14) to educate your child?

If your answers are YES, congratulations, you are ready to be a mother!

Honestly speaking, in reality, no one is probably ever really "ready" to have a baby.  Even when it's planned out, it can still be an overwhelming experience to see the positive pregnancy test results!

The best way for a person to know if they are ready to have a baby is to think hypothetically what their own reaction would be upon seeing a positive test result - If you can see yourself freaking out and feeling like your entire future is gone, and that you would feel helpless and lost without terminating the pregnancy or giving the child up for adoption, you are NOT ready.  

However, if you can imagine yourself being elated, and knowing in your heart that no matter what, you CAN do this and you WILL do this, you are ready. (advice from Erasorhed)