Helping ADHD Kids

ADHD is a common behavioral disorder that affects an estimated 8% to 10% of school-age children. Boys are about three times more likely than girls to be diagnosed with it, though it's not yet understood why.


Kids with ADHD act without thinking, are hyperactive, and have trouble focusing. They may understand what's expected of them but have trouble following through because they can't sit still, pay attention, or attend to details. Of course, all kids (especially younger ones) act this way at times, particularly when they're anxious or excited. But the difference with ADHD is that symptoms are present over a longer period of time and occur in different settings. They impair a child's ability to function socially, academically, and at home.


Accept That ADHD Is a Genuine Disorder
In order to help an ADHD kid, you must first believe that ADHD is a genuine brain disorder that results in unintended behaviors and consequences. Understand that ADHD is neither a reflection of a child's character nor of his intelligence or upbringing. Adults who believe that ADHD is a made-up diagnosis may think the child's behavior is willful and caused by a lack of discipline or poor parenting. These adults are going to handle their interactions with an ADHD child very differently than those who recognize the disorder's impact. It takes a mature, patient, calm adult leader to manage an ADHD child in a group setting.

Focus on Positive Channeling
Focus on strengths and provide opportunities for learning. ADHD kids are energizing. They are often passionate, enthusiastic, and active children. Take the time to catch the ADHD child doing good things, and compliment her. While the standard punishment model of discipline may be appropriate for some kids, it generally backfires with the ADHD child. Channeling her behavior in a positive manner reduces the odds that misbehavior will occur.

Adjust Your Expectations
The ADHD child is approximately two to three years behind his/her peers in emotional maturity. This can be confusing for adults, especially if the ADHD child is physically large for his chronological age but behaves several years younger, socially and emotionally. Adjust your expectations accordingly.

Give One-Step Directions
Many kids with ADHD have trouble following multi-step directions. They respond very well to predictability and structure, so they appreciate knowing the routine in advance of the situation.

ADHD is a disorder of self-control, ADHD kids may do and say things that they don't mean. It takes a strong adult to refrain from taking the bait and retaliating with punishments and reprimands. .

Correction Strategies

• Encourage rather than criticize.

• Tell them what you want them to do (not just what not to do).

• Refrain from accusations.

• Catch the child exhibiting positive behavior.

• Shape behavior through praise.

• Move closer to the ADHD child when you want his/her attention.

• Ask the ADHD child to do small errands/chores to redirect negative energy.